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Coping after a Miscarriage

February 25, 2024

Coping after a miscarriage is something no woman wants to have to think about. But when it happens, it can shatter your world.

Miscarriage, the abrupt loss of a pregnancy, is a devastating experience that shatters expectations and leaves emotional wreckage in its wake. It’s an often hushed tragedy, shrouded in stigma and silence, making the journey of recovery feel isolating and overwhelming. But amidst the heartache, remember, you are not alone. It is thought that 1 in 8 pregnancies end in a miscarriage and many more miscarriages happen before the person even knows they are pregnant (Source : NHS).

Understanding the Emotions

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The emotional fallout of a miscarriage is a torrent of conflicting feelings. Grief, anger, guilt, confusion, and despair can crash over you, leaving you gasping for air. There’s no one “right” way to grieve, and the intensity of your emotions can fluctuate in waves. Allow yourself to feel everything fully, without judgment. Talk, cry, scream, write a diary – find healthy outlets for your pain, find something that works for you.

Embracing the Physical Aftershock

Miscarriage also affects your physical well-being. Bleeding, cramping, and hormonal shifts can linger for weeks. Listen to your body. Rest when needed, ensure you have nutritious meals, and don’t hesitate to seek medical attention if you experience concerning symptoms.

Seeking Support, Finding Solace

You are not meant to navigate this storm alone. Lean on your loved ones, whether it’s your partner, family, friends, or a therapist. Sharing your experience can break the isolation and offer invaluable support. Consider joining a miscarriage support group, either online or in person, to connect with others who understand your pain and journey.

Honouring the Loss, Remembering the Hope

Grief takes time. Honour the life that you lost, however brief it may have been. Plant a tree, light a candle, write a letter, create a photo album – find ways to remember your baby and acknowledge your loss. Remember, grieving doesn’t diminish your ability to hope for the future. You can hold onto the memory of your lost child while still carrying hope for future pregnancies.

Coping after a Miscarriage – Mechanisms for Each Wave

  • Talking Therapy

    Individual or group therapy can provide a safe space to process your emotions and develop coping mechanisms.

  • Mindfulness and Meditation

    Practices like mindfulness and meditation can help manage stress and anxiety, offering moments of calm amidst the storm.

  • Creative Expression

    Writing, painting, music, or dance can offer cathartic release for your emotions, allowing you to express your grief in a non-verbal way.

  • Physical Activity

    Gentle exercise like walking, yoga, or swimming can help improve mood and combat the fatigue associated with grief.

  • Nature’s Embrace

    Spending time in nature can be a source of solace and healing. Immerse yourself in the calming sounds of waves, the whisper of leaves, or the scent of fresh air.

Remember, the path to healing and coping after a miscarriage is not linear. There will be good days and bad days, moments of laughter interspersed with tears. Be patient with yourself, and trust that with time, the waves will gradually subside, leaving behind a calmer, though forever changed, landscape. You may have to also support your partner grieving or your children. Be kind to yourself.

Additional Resources for Support

You are strong, you are resilient, and you will recover. Hold onto hope, trust the healing process, and know that you are not alone in this storm. Embrace the support that surrounds you, and remember, even in the darkest moments, there is always light on the horizon, waiting to guide you toward brighter days.


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